“My lender sure eliminated the stress of buying my home” – quote by Unknown
Personally, I’ve had both good and bad experiences with traditional mortgage lenders – and I can state with confidence that a good lender makes a huge difference in the home-buying process. I get it – lots of regulations – so I understand the red tape…
- I’m okay with the mountains of paperwork (thank you online bank statements!!)
- I’m okay with handing over my first born (thanks Kal, I’ll be sure to write!!)
- I’m even okay with the intrusion into my personal finances (thanks LifeLock!!)
What I’m NOT okay with is anything that puts our sellers in an uncomfortable position. We ran into this unfortunate situation at our most recent closing. For over FOUR hours after signing all closing documents, we sat around the table, just waiting for our lender to get things done on their end – staring at each other and trying to make small talk. It all worked out in the end, largely due to the awesome Title company facilitating the deal (props to First American Title Company at 134 North First Street, Brighton, MI 48116), but GEEZ. We decided then and there that we will not structure a deal where we repeat that process ever again.
Expectations
For this transaction, we opted to use a Hard Money lender to close the deal. We opted for a Hard Money loan for two reasons: 1) speed to close, and 2) ability to lend for the rehab work in addition to the property. The trade-off we made was a higher interest rate and additional points at closing. While expensive, the costs worked for the deal – and allowed us to leverage less capital rather than tie up large sums in one deal. We were counting on the “speed to close” so we could go from Purchase Agreement to Contractors On Site within a few weeks.
Part of the problem we faced included the expectations that our lender set. At the outset, we were given a closing date, and told that if we met our obligations (submission of documentation) by the dates specified, we could close on the date they gave us. The lender left out two critical details:
- Just because they put a closing date out there for them to meet, doesn’t mean they are committing to meeting that date; if they slide, they’re all too willing to tell us that we need to tell our sellers to change plans!
- Their Closing Date isn’t exactly a true closing date. To them, it was when the closing processes start, not finish. There was no sense of urgency on their part to complete the deal in time to wire the funds to our seller for same-day closing.
I learned that when doing investment loans, this will likely be a significant risk each and every time – not because of anything that we can proactively do – but because of the process in place used by all commercial lenders. I also learned that hard money lenders, who tout their ability to close fast so the transaction seems like it’s “just like cash to he seller” are still beholden to such practices. Hard Money lenders may be able start the closing process in 3-4 weeks instead of 4-6 weeks, but aside from that very minor gain, there is little difference outside the fact that they cover construction costs in the same loan.
Live and learn. Fail fast. Get up and do it again – better!
What to do next?
Our decision to avoid Hard Money if at all possible essentially leaves us with two choices as we build our business:
- Continue with hard money as needed, and do everything we can to work ahead and/or prepare our sellers – setting proper expectations
- Jump into the private financing arena
For us, the decision is easy. We are investigating private lending options. Hopefully when I look back at this post, I’ll be able to simply reminisce about the Hard Money Days. Fingers crossed.
As for who we hope to work with, I’ll create a post on that when I have it figured out. When we started, we didn’t want to bug our family and friends, asking for cash. I would still prefer not to ask. That tugs on the “obligation” strings a bit too much for me. If they ever come asking how to get involved or if it’s possible to park some stagnant savings where it might make a higher return, then I’m ready to discuss. I also know there are a lot of rules and regulations around solicitation for funds. Knowing only that, but nothing about the actual rules, I’m not asking anyone directly!
As of Today
As of today, we have a Hard Money loan for our first property. I’m discovering that including a construction loan in the mix makes this even more fun. The way the loan works is that we front the money, then get reimbursed for expenses through draws against the construction funding set-aside. My challenge now is to figure out how to make the receipts match the estimates – and how to address the overages. As long as we get the full amount from the set-aside back, I don’t mind absorbing any extra costs and chalking it up as “hard knocks”.
Once I have a better picture of the reimbursement process, I’ll post on that. This is something I wish I’d seen in detail before we jumped into the loan – it may have made a difference in our decision. I knew the framework, and I read/listened to a ton of material. I understood the numbers. I understood the risks and drawbacks, as well as the benefits. What I never realized was complexity of the logistics to actually carry out the terms of the loan, the lack of responsiveness, and the “on your own” approach this lender has taken.
I’m not complaining! (Although, at times I’m sure it may seem that way.) If I were, I’d most certainly be naming names. Instead, the purpose of this post to document my thoughts as a reminder to myself and hopefully as a piece of missing information for others who are considering a similar path.

